DIVORCE AND THE LONG LASTING EFFECT IT CAN HAVE ON CHILDREN

Before i begin writing any thing about this topic, I would like to ask what is Divorce ??  all definitions are the same, the definition you get from a law court, from a Church or a Mosque, from friends all point towards one direction and that is the legal termination of a marriage between a Husband and the wife.
Divorce can have many negative long lasting effects on children that are gotten from that marriage." When you introduce a child to the world of divorce, you are altering every aspect of their life. That kind of change is hard to adjust to for adults. Imagine what it must be like for children who are not old enough to reason and intellectualize the situation?" (Meyer, 2013).  Long lasting effect of divorce on children  are

   IT DAMAGES ALL PART OF THE CHILD`S LIFE

Before  parents divorce, they might have been some hot arguments and in some cases, battering of the wife by the husband and all these are been done in front of the children. The children grow up with the memories of what their dad did to their mum and some might think that the only way to talk to a nagging wife is by battering because of what they saw in their childhood.
In some cases," lengthy legal battles occur , parents often fight over custody of their children and without any doubt, the children`s concept of the world as a safe and reliable environment might be reinterpreted" (Frazee et al,  2004).                                
Some kids might not even have regards or respect for their parents again, they may not even want to acknowledge that person as their father or mother again in their entire life even when they are married and have their own kids.  According to Meyer(2013),  Children of divorce are more aggressive toward their parents and teachers. They experience more depression, more learning difficulties and problems getting along with their peers. They are three times more likely to be referred for psychological help. They become sexually active earlier, they are more likely to produce children out of wedlock and they are three times as likely to divorce themselves or to never marry.




An advice to all the parents out there or those that are about to divorce, Before you do so, think about your children, you should ask yourself this question, if i were to divorce, what will be the fate of my son or daughter in the future?? will they be able to live a normal life like kids their age and what effect could my action have on them in the future.